Straight Talkin’
By Keiti | October 26, 2007
Anyone who knows me knows that I am about as honest as they come - sometimes brutally so. I am simply not hardwired to be deceptive in any way. It tends to get me in trouble much of the time.
But on the flip side, I don’t pick up on hints too well. If someone doesn’t come right out and blatantly tell me what’s on their mind, I tend to miss it.
Case in point:
I am currently working in an environment where the vast majority of people I work with are men. I have absolutely no problem with that since I tend to get along better with men than I do women. I’m not sure why that is, but it’s the way I’ve always been. That’s not to say I don’t have friends who are women - as a matter of fact, most of my closest friends are women, but it wasn’t always so.
At any rate, I get picked on a lot - not in a mean way, but they do like to bust my chops - I think it’s because I throw it right back at them. I learned a long time ago that when you’re around men, you’ve either got to keep up or get walked all over and I’m not anyone’s doormat. Despite all the teasing, the guys make sure that no one bothers me unnecessarily, which is cool. If nothing else, I know that they’ve got my back.
But there’s also what I call the novelty factor of being the only woman in the office - there is another woman who works the night shift on our project, but she’s very rarely in the actual office since she handles materials - everyone makes sure to stop and say hello - most everyone is very respectful, which is great - and they take great pains to make sure I’ve eaten dinner since they’ve been bringing in food for the crew. The downside is that there are people who invariably develop some sort of interest in getting to know me better outside of work. Which is cool, but since there is an office full of men, I miss the subtle clues.
This morning before leaving work one of the guys asked me if I ever went out for breakfast before heading home. And me in my complete inability to pick up on hints say something to the effect of how I always go home and go to bed, thereby slamming the door shut.
And even though I have no interest in embarking on any kind of relationship thanks to the complete disaster that was my last one, sometimes I think I completely suck at being a girl.
Topics: Life in General |
October 28th, 2007 at 3:44 pm
That’s O.K. LMAO
Some of us just suck at social niceties. We could form the “Chicks that suck at being Feminine” club. OR if we wanted to let clueless guys join too, we could call it the “The Socially Clueless Society”
October 30th, 2007 at 11:14 am
Ugh. That stinks. I’m sure he’ll try again!
October 30th, 2007 at 2:35 pm
I have noticed that he’s been calling my extension for various reasons lately - which started out of the blue.
But it’s not so much about wanting to embark on anything as it is a commentary about being absolutely clueless. Trust me, missing subtle clues isn’t anything new for me.
October 30th, 2007 at 2:37 pm
Angel,
I think “The Socially Clueless Society” is a great idea.
Can I steal the idea?
(I’m not joking…)
mwah!
k